Many people ask why I have not left Katelyn. The answer is actually very simple. Love, and commitment. Yes Kate made some very serious accusations about me, that I raped her which was proven false after she admitted it. Katelyn is also currently living in an adult foster care setting and has a guardian. The guardian is doing a great job standing up for Katelyn and helping her get independent. Shes also not falling for Katelyn’s mother’s overprotective crap and is really seeing that Katelyn is capable and going to be independent soon. I have really grown to respect Katelyn’s guardian in the last week as shes quite a wise woman, and really truly cares about whats best for Kate.
Kate and I just after getting engaged
The fact that I had a meltdown because I was overwhelmed also really complicates things. I have a lot of damage control to now do with Katelyn’s family, guardian, my friends, my church and many others around me. But I now not only have to do this damage control for Katelyn, but for myself and our child.
When I proposed to Kate back in February, I was telling her I was ready to make a promise. A promise to be there for her in sickness, and in health. A promise to be there for her through all the trials and tribulations life has to offer. Katelyn is very obviously sick right now and is starting to recover, and so am I. Why should I leave a sick person? Would I do the same if she had cancer?
Another thing is I truly do Love Katelyn. I think that’s why this whole process is so painful, because I know shes hurting right now and I can’t be there for her to make things all better. I’m learning that love amplifies emotions a hundred times, because for the person you love you are willing to do almost anything for them. I have learned that when people say they would die for someone they love – that I know what they mean, and I know the feeling.
I’m kind of glad though this happened before marriage, as its going to allow us to plan for our breakdowns and mental health issues during our marriage. This is going to help our relationship be much stronger, and its going to help Katelyn and I be much more effective parents – even with our disabilities.
Do you think I should of left Kate? If you do, do you now understand why I wont?
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Well said and honorable. you should go back and read this when you’re “overwhelmed” next time.
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I can see why. Its a difficult situation, but love often is and relationships.
All of that is enough to make anyone melt down.
I hope stuff gets better for you and Katelyn and your future child.
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I hope so as well. I hope things get better between Katelyn’s mother and I as well
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