Comments on: Things To Know If You Love A Man With Aspergers

By: Becs

Becs — Mon, 20 Sep 2010 18:39:23 +0000

I purchased this book following the abrupt breakdown of my relationship. I went to a Relate counsellor to help me make some sense of what had happened and they suggested that my ex boyfriend may have aspergers.
Well I read this book and I went cold….this is him to a T.
We are still close friends but I don’t know whether he has ever looked into aspergers. I know he thinks there is something wrong with him. How do I approach the subject with him?

By: Mozz

Mozz — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 12:12:11 +0000

I have read the book (I am an Aspie – 36 years). I do a lot of marriage counselling (bizarre job for an Aspie!!!) as a Christian Minister. I have since purchased a number of copies of the book to give to people and recommended that others look to get copies themselves. The book is fairly simple and straight talking. It is 22 short points (only a couple of pages each) but that is its strength. The book highlights the negative aspects that people need to be aware of but it also includes many of the positives – things that people may not notice at a first glance.
Not everything in the book applies to my relationship with my wife, but I have seen every one of the ’22 things’ played out in the lives of some Aspies…!
One of the people I gave the book to thought at first that the book was a joke (it appears a little cheap) but then they bothered to take it home and read it. They were very angry with me – and the book. Her husband was screaming out of the pages and it made her confront what she was pushing to the background.
I am happy to continue to use this book and will continue to purchase copies as I see the need!

By: Theo

Theo — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 13:39:32 +0000

I’m sorry for that. *hug*

For the nights after a flashback hits, I sometimes have to use some Melatonin, and if I need something stronger, I take a tylenol pm and fix a glass of decaffinated green tea. The warm drink helps my body relax enough for the spasms in my legs to calm down (relaxes muscles) and the Tylenol pm helps me sleep no matter how viscious the flashback.

It’s worth a shot. *another hug*

By: Zach

Zach — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 09:50:18 +0000

Maybe I’ll do a transcription of it tomorrow. I’m having too much trouble getting to sleep as it is tonight.

By: Nico Coer

Nico Coer — Sat, 19 Dec 2009 03:37:09 +0000

The audio is hard to process, especially for those with Auditory sensitivities- I’d like them to add Closed Captioning to the youtube videos.

From what I could make out, it seems okay.