Have you ever lost something, or not had something available to you that you loved so much. The situation with Kate and I is a mess, but I know she loves me (otherwise why would I get a face book relationship request from her). Right now shes not available to me, and she was my best friend. But some tangible things that remind me of how supportive she can be are – and I’ve been using them.When Katelyn and I first started dating I bought her a pendant. She used to say her stomach would have butterflies in it causing it to get upset when I was not with her so I found a pendant with a heart and a butterfly so her stomach butterflies would have friends so her stomach would not get upset. (Ok I’m a bit cheesy.) I recently just found it and put it on my key chain – when I run into things that cause me to miss Kate it gives me something to hold onto, a hope that this mess will be straightened out.
When I was in the hospital, and needed Kates support the most but could not have it – I brought a shirt that Kate left at my place. I slept with the shirt, and held onto it when I started missing her. If tears could stain a shirt, this shirt would be worthless. You don’t know how embarrassing it is though to get a call from the hospital after you left saying you left a woman’s top in your room.
What things do you keep, or sleep with that offer you emotional support?
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Well, I tend to snuzzle with all of these rabbit toys because I still miss my rabbit Bernie that died back in October.
Man, he was the best bunny ever. Hugging these things makes me feel better, so don’t feel bad about seeking comfort somehow.
And yes I tend to sleep with these stuffed rabbits, but they are so cute and cuddly. Shame I didn’t buy that five dollar toy chameleon I saw because I really want a chameleon
Another thing I often do is run my hands along the fabric that lines the roof of my car, it comforts me somehow when I’m stressed.
Yeah, tactile things tend to be comforting. Like holding bags of sugar or something. Squeezing bags of brown sugar is very nice.
And silk isn’t so bad either.
I kind of wish I had a weighted blanket or something… the pressure would be quite nice.
I’ve been thinking about asking Kate’s mom who makes homemade felt stuff about the possibility of hiring her to make me a weighted blanket after all this drama blows over.
I don’t know how felt would hold weights that well, but she does some pretty good work.
I use disc weights – the round ones like you’d use on a barbell – instead of a weighted blanket. I have a few each of 5lb and 10lb, and they do the job well. Just lie down and put a few on your chest and abdomen, or sit with them on your lap – it’s definitely calming.
The butterfly is broken
I think you two are going to work it out, just be patient. Remember you guys can’t just be thinking about yourselves you two have a child.
The butterfly broke when Kate had it.
By the way, are you ever going to take off the mask. I frustrates me not knowing who you are.
There has been a blog I have been following that you may want to tell Kate’s mom about. http://www.autismlearningfelt.com/
I think she may like that.
By the way, your posting a link to her site in a comment – buttkisser
Kate told me she still reads this site, but I’ll email her a link to your comment.
As far as butt kissing goes, there is nothing wrong with it as long as there is not too much butt kissing, or the tongue gets involved (ok thats a lame joke)
That seems kinda uncomfortable.
The weights, you mean? Not really. 5-10lb isn’t that heavy, and they’re big enough to distribute the weight nicely. You might want to put a towel under them if you prefer a little padding, but I don’t even do that.