Ok, as some of you people know I’m dating/courting a really awesome gal. Shes a strong Christian, a lovely lady and a not so good singer – but neither am I. I was talking to her mother today on the phone about how Aspergers has effected my relationship with her, but I just started pondering almost how shes kinda therapeautic for my Aspergers as well.
The following are some things I’ve noticed about:
- I normally can’t sleep with clothes on, but when I’m laying down near her (Yes with clothes) I can sleep better than I usually do. I’m not sure why, but I think its because she makes me feel safe.
- I have difficulty looking people in the eye, but I love looking into her eyes.
- I normally can’t talk about deep things easily with people, but I can spill my guts to her without thinking about it.
I have found out – you always think you know what love is, but you never truely know until you have found it. To be honest, it scares me a lot. Its a huge change for me. There have been several times where I have been tempted to get up and run – which is usually what I do when things are going really well.
So for those on the Autism Spectrum or those in relationships with those on the spectrum How does the relationship affect the autism?
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My love interest is the only one that I feel comfortable looking in the eye. Normally, I don’t make eye contact. And I feel so safe around him.
I totally relate to the eye contact thing…my one and only is one of the very few people whose eyes I LOVE staring into, can’t ever tire of it. Funny, we’re actually BOTH Aspies, and we seem to have developed a mutual fixation on each other’s eyes!