So Katelyn and I knew we had some fake friends. Today we decided to put on a public spectacle to weed them out.Katelyn knew her mothers passwords for her facebook and email, and we also knew that fake friends were feeding her information on private conversations. So we put on a public spectacle to find these friends….. and we found them.
Laura, and Dianna have in Laura’s words been attempting to win “ins” with Katelyn and I to convince us to put up our child for adoption. According to the email I got from Katelyn that was sent from Laura to her mother:
I was hoping I might be able to find an ‘in’ with Kate, to become a trusted source of knowledge and advice and guidance for her, but she seems to think I, too, am controlled and manipulated and influenced by you
Well lets point out the obvious things. You already tried to convince Katelyn to put it up for adoption – she said no. Second the fact that your reporting to her mother makes it obvious that you are being at least influenced if not manipulated by her. Thanks for helping us clear that up. But you even did a better job making it crystal clear that you intend on breaking us up:
In the meantime, I can only imagine the strain this places on you. I know that you have long wished for Kate a loving, supportive man to be her partner in life. If you have any insight into how I might get through to Kate, I am happy to try.
Laura seems to think I dont understand Aspergers that well:
As much as he touts his asperger’s, he ignores that it impacts his ability to relate to others and understand social cues
First off I don’t toubt my Aspergers. Second off, I understand I don’t get social cues. Third off I seem to understand you pretty well for having Aspergers.
Now lets talk about my magical powers I use to put Katelyn under a spell to which you refer:
I see, too, his influence over Kate, who seems completely under his spell.
I’m not a magician. The only thing I influence Katelyn to do is make her own decisions. If you want the real truth – I think we can be parents, but its would be easier to put the child up for adoption. I have shared this with Katelyn and told her I would support her and not leave her not matter what her decision was. She choose to raise the child.
As far as the enemy is concerned, you wrote:
It wouldn’t surprise me if this whole thing will crash and burn within months once they are allowed to be together again and no longer have a common enemy (you and by extension the guardian, of course
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The guardian is not against us, as Katelyn wrote in a blog post earlier today. Katelyn’s guardian seems more concerned about the behaviors that Katelyn’s mother has shown, treating her like a retard all the time, not treating her age appropriate. Thats why shes not allowed to go home.
To these people – we say goodbye. You are now blocked from our lives. We now begin the process of recovery with the people we can trust.
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Zach & Kate,
Surrounding yourself with people who (mostly) agree with you is actually a very logical strategy known as building a support network.
Reading between Laura’s comments I can predict there will be some nasty weather ahead. She might be out to get the two of you, “and your little dog, too.”
There may be some probability that she might see herself as acting for the state if she files unfit parent papers against the both of you and attempts to seize your child, either for the grandmother to raise or to be placed within the foster system.
The two of you should retain an attorney to defend the two of you and your child, right now. Least expensive way to do that is to obtain a prepaid legal plan and once in place have Kate’s guardian find the best one.
Best wishes from The Blessed Realm,
Aulë
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This is not a copyright issue, as the correspondence Kate accessed and you subsequently published was private material, and has no legitimate public interest.
Therefore, I again respectfully request you remove all quotes from my private correspondence.
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Actually it is of public interest. Suzanne made some very slanderous public allegations about me to many of my friends and family, such as telling them I’m a woman hater and an absolutely horrible person. Suzanne has attempted to use her guardianship when she had it to force Katelyn to lie to a judge – which a judge saw right through.
Suzanne made your email public interest by making allegations about me. This email shows the charector and manipulation Suzanne and her friends are trying to accomplish. This is now in the public interest as it shows that her accusations are slanderous, and without merrit.
Furthermore seeing as you have stated you are acing as a goverment employee, as a legal child advocate and are acting during your working hours and on work computers (and I’ll quote what you said below) your electronic communications are supposed to be logged and available to the general public via a facebook request. When you stated you were acting as a legal child advocate, doing this during your working hours, and using county owned equipment it no longer becomes privileged information, and is of public interest.
Furthermore if it has nothing to do with Suzanne why are you reporting your actions to her?
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I do not recall ever claiming to be your friend, or even Katelyn’s. I have been an advocate for what I think is best for that child, and what I think has nothing to do with Suzanne. It has everything to do with what I know of Kate, what I’ve seen of you from your blog, and what I have learned as a legal advocate for children. One of the things you didn’t bother to quote (from a private conversation you had no right to access, let alone repost publicly, btw) is the issue of what happens to the child in six months if the two of you find out you really cannot be parents? By then, much of the damage to that child’s future will have already been done. You may very well succeed at being parents . . . and frankly I hope that you do. But if you don’t, the consequences are much too high, and from everything I have seen from both of you your focus is entirely on yourselves and not what is best for that child.
If you want to surround yourself only with people who agree with you, that is your right. However, I respectfully request that you remove all quotes from my message to Kate’s mom, as they are not your intellectual property.
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Feel free to file a DMCA takedown request via certified mail Laura. I also suggest you become familiar with copyright fair use laws. For your convenience I have pasted the relevant section of US Copyright Code
Your guilt trip continues with the whole you never can be good parents thing.
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And by the way we have plenty of friends who do not agree with us, but won’t go behind our backs and try too decieve us like you did.
Also I respectfully request as a taxpayer in the county which you work for you stop abusing our tax dollars and cease using work computers for harrasing me – which is a non work activity. Specifically I’m referring to employee policy 7.14E with your employer
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Zach and Katelyn
You need to get together with your support people and guardian’s ASAP. You need to get a restraining order on Katelyn’s mother. Shes going to end up hurting your child – its very clear now.
Its important that you two be there for each other right now, and seek out and surround yourselves with truthful, honest and supportive people. You two both do need help, but not from people like that.
I’m sorry Katelyn that your mother is like that. Your not a retard, and even if you were you should not be treated as such. Your mother needs more help then both of you combined. Kick her out of your lives until she gets it for the sake of your child
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Thank you alison for the insight. Im now strongly thinging about the ppo but i also know that my gurdian is seeing right threw mom as well and if i ask her to keep mom away she will and already has a bit. Right now im not communacating with my mom much. And wont be for a long time i think!!.
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I’m going to ignore the fact that snooping someone else’s private email is a mean and nasty thing to do because the contents were so nasty.
Sometimes it’s nice to be oblivious to the fact that people are mean-spirited and ill-intentioned towards you. Once you’ve found out these horrid secrets, there’s no going back and you can’t unlearn what you’ve discovered. I’m sorry that this will affect your relationship with your “mother-in-law” from this point onwards. Of course, since it wasn’t much of a relationship by the sounds of it, you’ve probably not lost much.
The best I can say is that at least it’s out in the open. Try not to let those negative things affect you. Yeah, it’s hard when someone has just bludgeoned your self-esteem but the way I see it, those people aren’t qualified to hold an opinion on you.
Do what you do best. You know that if things get too difficult, you will be able to get help with the child. If things get impossible, you will be able to “give it up” for adoption.
Just don’t give it up without a fight.
You’re a dad now. This is your fight. It’s your time to be a hero for your child.
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Galvin,
I’m more concerned about how her mother is effecting Katelyn. When I got out of class tonight I had like 40 IMs because Katelyn was going nuts from what she was discovering in her mothers inbox.
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Thank you gavin for the great insite and wisdome! It is so greatly apreseated and needed. And thank you for viweing both sids of the baby issue!! And yes i will say it again i love your blog
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