hey everyone, i need some help right now. zach do’s not know im typing this, but im needing to get some things out in the open about my mom and dad. as you may know my mother has guardanship of me right now. but she is not doing what she is supost to do for it. she has kicked me out of the house, and verbaly and emotionly abused me.! she has threatedn to put me in fostercare, told me that if i leave the house and run away i cna not come back to the house evan tho she is leagly supost ot provide me housing. sayed things like if you go back with zach how do you want to be buried. not leting me talk to the proscuter and tell him i lied, my mom is yanking me out of the school i can get a deploma at. zach is paying for me to stay in hotel becase my parnts have kicked me out.
im scared to tell the truth about how abousive my parnets are, becase they clame i make them look horrable, and then dont alow me to talk to friends at all, keeping the ph off the hook nad with them all the time. and telling friends not to call.
i m scared of my parents they treat me like a two year old they lie and manipulate me. they keep hurting zach over and over and over agian.
they threatend to have me arested if i leave. becase of abuse and also call the police on zach becase i told him to come pick me up becase of all the abuse and intimadation.
the polive where i live wont belive me becase my dad is active in the city govermnt, and it’s a small town.
the police where zach lives are telling my my parents should not be doing this stuff and are creating a big mess but cant do anything becase mom and dad live out side there juisdiction.
plese help im scared !! and zach is melting down eean more becase of this. i worry he might not be able to take much more of this.
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And yet you’re brave enough to put all of this down into a blog post which you know your mother reads. Just call the police and tell them if you’re telling the truth
i did when i left my moms and the police threatend to aresst me, lucky my lawer and the poilice where zach lives sayed the police cant aresst me
orignaly i did not report it becase i was scared i would end uo in foster care and did not want my parnets to end up in jail
Maybe they belong in jail for a bit. If Zach can survive it, why not them?
i dont want my parnets in jail i love them way to much to do that to them
The two of you are fucked up in the head and need some serious psychiatric treatment. Kate, you should get away from this very controlling person before you find yourself cut up and in a suitcase somewhere like that model.
im sorry you think we are fucked up in the head but we are getting help for are issues, im vary glad i got away form my mom, as i was becoming suacidal, i was thinking of it alot, i could never go threw with it but was thinking about it alot.
How about you skip town and elope? That mumbo-jumbo about needing parental or legal guardians’ consent only applies if you’re under 18 and you’re almost 21! It might be nice to have a big wedding, but if you skip town and get married right away, there’s not much anyone can do about it. Personally, I would consider a big wedding with a reception and all to be a small sacrifice, especially considering how abusive your parents are being towards you.
She already has a temporary legal guardian (her mother) so she legally could not do that as marriage is a contract.
Another thing, its very important for both her and I to have family present when we do marry.
I reckon… but, I haven’t read this blog a lot, but there seems to be some unresolved family issues or something….
ya right now i cnat get married without my guardans consent, evan when i could have, we had it sceduled but then zach canced it at the last minit becase he knows my family is important to me and it is !!!!!!!!!!
I was talking about Zach as the controlling person. Your too young to see this type of behavior as psychotic. I’m telling you, your going to find yourself on the wrong side of a lethal weapon one day. You need to get away now!
the shariffs department in zachs county thinks zach has many issues but he would NEVER kill or hurt someone. alot of people agree on htis including zachs pastores school teaches and princaples.
jj zach says many things sometimes tht are horrable but the situation was relay overwelming form him.
he did not beat me or rape me and i sayed those becase i im pregnet and scared he would leave me becses somany othere guys leave when they find out so i pushed him away first.
is this really katelyn?
yep, and who are you ?, i doubt your name is obvious !, are you and jj friends of my mothers ??!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
nope, i don’t know either of you…just a reader. the spelling errors and punctuation seem both over-and-underdone, depending on the sentence. it’s a little suspicious. spelling “pregnet” incorrectly, but using commas properly…it just doesn’t seem like natural typing, for someone with FAS or otherwise. it seems contrived, and i think that it probably is.
I’m sorry that you don’t think its kate, but there is nothing we can do to please you.
I don’t know. Both of you are adults and have rights as adults. There’s no way these folks should be allowed to dominate you.
There has to be some sort of resource that can help you, but I’m not sure of it…
Just a FYI:
Kate will be going back to her mother’s tonight. I think she needed some time away from her mom for awhile in order to set some more healthy boundaries with her.
I’m almost finished with my schooling to become an Occupational therapist, so it’s not like I’ve been out there a long time and know it all, but I sure do know a bit about the system and how it works through many clients I’ve had and family members that have disabilities.
Kate needs a lawyer that can and will fight for her rights as an adult. Although you two are adults with disabilities, you are still adults and have rights. Kate, don’t you have a service provider that controls your medicare/medicaid or medwaiver? This person might be able to help you figure out what your rights are in Michigan. As far as this ridiculous guardianship, Kate needs a lawyer to be on her side, not paid off by her parents, and there for her. Someone in the “legal aid” office should be able to help you with this. It’s your right as a citizen of this country to have a legal representative when going to court for any matter. Kate- you are of sound mind and do not NEED to have a legal guardian. You can be your own guardian. You just have to get the guardianship from your parents revoked. You will need something from a physician or psychologist stating that you are of sound mind and body and are able to make decisions on your own. There’s a lot more people out there that have less mental capacity and are completely independent. My husband is a cop and he said there is no way your parents can have you arrested for leaving home, etc. If anything, them kicking you out would leave them open for arrest due to their failure to maintain the arrangements and requirements of the stupid guardianship. Also, things of this sort are a civil matter and cops do not want to be involved in it, nor are they allowed to legally. Unless a LAW is broken, the cops have no business in your family matters.
I have read this blog for a long time, posting comments here and there. I truly believe you two belong together. You just need to figure things out, be HONEST, and grow up and be adults. You have a child coming into this world soon. All this stress is not good for Kate, and not good for that baby.
This has gotten so out of hand, Kate’s parents need to allow her to LIVE life, GROW up, and be the WOMAN she is. Whether they like it or not, Kate is a grown woman, who has found the love of her life. Kate- your parents are so overprotective because they love you, but what they don’t realize is they are failing to allow you to follow the path in life laid out for you. This is so destructive. Sheltering someone so much prevents them from learning life’s lessons. They just can’t stop themselves, unfortunately. What kind of people keep someone from the person they love, someone that gives them such happiness? Controlling and scared people. They need to GROW up themselves! Kate- your parents saying you make them look bad by telling people how they treat you (THE TRUTH) is another method of manipulation. This is how they are manipulating you into lying, manipulating you into keeping quiet, and manipulating you into thinking you can’t handle being a mother. You are strong. You need to tell everyone the truth. And I would highly suggest carrying a voice recorder to record your conversations with your parents. At least you can submit that to court to prove their abuse and manipulation of you. Breaking free from their sheltering, abusive and manipulative ways is the only way you are going to be able to live life to its’ fullest potential.
Anyhow, sorry for the rambling, but I wanted to let you know I check everyday for updates, making sure Zach is still around and posting, seeing what the latest things are going on. Even though I don’t know you guys, I care for you and hope for the best for you. I wish I could come to Michigan help you two so badly. I am so sure that if these parents would stop interfering, then things will be better for everyone involved.
I’ll reply to this even though it was more addressed at Kate as shes most likely not reading this.
Kate currently does have a court appointed attorney who i took her to meet with. Tomorrow (which is Kate’s 21st birthday – sucks I know) is a court hearing scheduled to look at the need for a guardianship for Kate. They plan on asking that a limited temporary guardian be appointed and the case be adjourned while the attorney can get more time to speak with witnesses for Kate and request an independent psychological evaluation as the psychological evaluation currently in front of the court has information only from Kate when she was distressed and her parents. There are plenty of others out there who disagree with the need for the guardianship including her special education teachers and principal.
Another concern of Kate’s is she wants to attend school in Kalamazoo and guardians rarely move their people outside of the county they live in. If Kate were to attend school in Kalamazoo she would have a great school to attend that teaches living skills, helps get you a job, a high school diploma, etc. In the county her parents reside a program like this is not offered.
As far as Kate’s parents being over protective – agreed. As far as it happening to the point of causing damage – agreed. I know her parents do it out of love, but I’m having trouble stopping myself from getting angry at them over it.
If you enjoy Kate’s rambling I bought her a domain for her own blog for her birthday. I’m hoping to bring it online tonight for her. Thank you for replying – I know she enjoys reading the replies and support from people.
Well, I agree, this whole thing sucks. Especially on her birthday!
Great idea on the domain and blog address- I’ll have to add that new one to my Google Reader subscriptions! I’m a rambler myself, so I totally can follow it all
I kind of meant the reply to both of you. I truly believe that if you two can still love each other through all of this, you can make it. Just find your strength in each other, that’s how a true marriage/partnership works.
I will definitely pray for you two tonight, send strength and good thoughts to you tomorrow and throughout my day. Just know, you have prayers coming from all the way down in Florida.
And please do an update, cause I have been checking nearly everyday lately to make sure things are progressing along well for you guys. My heart breaks when I see your (Zach) posts about how depressed you’ve been, but I am so elated when I see posts from Kate or messages that have even a slightly upbeat tone.
Just know God is with you, even when you feel the loneliest and there’s people all across the country rooting for you guys.
Thanks for the prayers…
As far as the arrest goes, the only people who threatned that were Kate’s parents and plainwell public safety because her father’s connections. I think its a case of small town untrained moron cop as the sheriff’s dept in my county, kate’s lawyer, my lawyer, and cmh all say Kate’s parents can only as the police to run a welfare check. Kate notified the sheriff’s dept in my jurisdiction where she was and that I picked her up at her request, that her parents had full temporary guardianship and threatened to have us arrested – the dispatchers response as I recall was “They can’t do that, they must be morons”
i like the advice you have given !1 alot i will try to rember that, thank you so much.
Could you please post a link to Kate’s blog on your site? If not, please tell me the URL for said blog because I would like to read it.
The URL is purchased, I’m currently setting up the databases and themes. It will be up within a week of today – and when that happens I will ask her to make an announcement here.
still scrounging up in my head what i will be putting on the blogs !!!