So now that Kate is pregnant I’m having to learn a lot about patience. Aspergers and patience typically don’t mix well, and then with all the lies and not knowing whats going on, my anxiety level is going through the roof.Typically guys are pretty much so powerless during a pregnancy to help out, to protect, to nurture. All they can do is go to appointments, be there for emotional support, and get yelled at during labor. But I don’t know if I am going to be able to do any of those things. Right now I can’t even visit Kate, and I only get 15 minutes on the phone with her a day. These rules her mother set up, and then blamed everyone else for them in order to very clearly try and get Kate and I to brake up.
Think I am taking it to the extreme? Well her mother wrote right on her petition for guardianship for Kate that the reason she needs guardianship is to keep Kate away from me. She can say she has no intention of breaking us up, but when you write something on a legal document under penalty of perjury it tends to carry a bit more weight.
Now that her mother is no longer her guardian, and she has an independent guardian sorting out this mess – its hard to be patient while the old rules stay in effect while this mess is sorted out. So latley I’ve been spending my time watching way to much Hulu, blowing up communists in Call of Duty 4, and dragging my feet on other things I should accomplish because I keep thinking about Kate. I miss her quite a bit and its been 2 and a half week since I’ve seen her.
Right now I get 15 minutes on the phone with her daily, and I talk to her way to much online. But the fact is, I would do anything right now just to hold Katelyn for an hour, and be held. Just to joke around, go through the McDonald’s drive through backwards (we got bored OK?).
Being patient is a skill I’m having a hard time learning.
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Zach,
Gee, the lengths a mother will go to stop her daughter from growing up. She’s free, white, and over 18, as the hoary expression goes!
Contact your local Legal Aid society. Her mother had no business slapping a conservatorship on her daughter in the first place just to prevent her from marrying you. You might be able to find pro-bono lawyer who can possibly get that voided.
Another reason for a case will come up when the child is born. You have a right to visit your child. Period. You also have a right to be with your fiancee during her labor, because you are the child’s father. Katelyn is going to need you desperately, epidural or no.
Best you go get a civil rights lawyer on your side willing to work for free.
Perhaps there is an attorney lurking on this blog?
Best,
Aulë
Katelyn now has an independent guardian. According to Katelyn shes put her mother in her place for her a couple times and is really trying to advocate for what Katelyn says she wants and needs.