Last night after my internet rudely died in the middle of a conversation with someone I did some thinking about how Katelyn and I make accommodations for each other in our relationship due to the unique needs because of our disabilities.To me and her it seems to come quite naturally, but to the people on the outside of our relationship it appears to be an unhealthy relationship to them.
When Katelyn is wearing some new clothing around me before we leave we always check how I respond to the texture of the clothing. There have been times when I was really physically distant to Katelyn because of what shes wearing – and its not because I’m shallow its because of the texture.
Katelyn has short term memory issues sometimes, as well as ADD so sometimes I will remind her of something she wanted to talk about as she forgets or gets distracted. Some people view this as controlling, but Katelyn asks me too remind her sometimes because she knows she can forget or get distracted.
At dances, parties or other social events I often wander off to be by myself for a bit, and when in the crowd I’m at Katelyn’s side. Some people view this as controlling, but we know I have a hard time with social events and its much easier when shes there. When she needs alone time or I’m a bit overwhelmed I wander off to be by myself.
Kate and I have no problem making these accommodations for each other, but other people see it as strange. We see it as loving. How do you see it?
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Awww great post love! And thank you for all you do! I love you respect you and care about you deeply!!