I’m currently engaged to a lovely and awesome lady, and I’m experiencing true love for the first time. I’m learning that you can not immagine true love, or know what it is until you experience it. I’m learning how deep and how unimaginable true love is. As many autistics I can get overwhelmed with my emotions, even more so with new emotions and deep emotions such as love. Yesterday I broke down. I realized I was incapable of love on my own.You Are Incapable Of Love?
Yep – I am absolutely incapable of loving my fiance on my own. I can’t do it, and I learned nor can anyone else. Autism or disability has nothing to do with the inablility to love ones partner. True love is an emotion that you can not even get near without God’s help. I am truely learning that I can not handle love without his love, and guidance. I’m also learning it has nothing to do with my disability, or my fiance’s disability – it has to do with the fact I’m human.
True love is when you not only can not imagine yourself without that person, but your willing to sacrifice yourself for that person. I recently did something that devestated me for a time mentally because my fiance told me she needed me. While it was nothing really bad – she was extremley nervous. I don’t know why she wanted me there, but she did. I know her mom reads this blog and this next part is going to upset her – but if I had to do it all over again would I?
Simply put, yes. But I would not of tried to do it on my own, I would of brought God too.
Never Leave Your Partner Behind
Why?
The simple answer is put in a popular movie out right now called Fireproof which is based on a book called The Love Dare. In it there is a really good quote, “Never leave your partner behind.” Kate is my partner, and if shes nervous about something I can not and will not leave her behind. Love sometimes involves sacrifices to help your partner through things, and thats something I did. The only mistake I did was trying to do it myself, and not with God’s help.
After praying about it this morning, I realized that my mistake was not being there for my fiance, but trying to be there for her on my own two feet and not with God’s help, and I can not love without God’s help either.
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Wow this is a great post !! Makes me want to cry! Love you!
Man, I really don’t want to be “that guy”… Especially since this is obviously a post with nothing but sweet intentions and it’s nice to see other people in love. And also especially because I’m positive you wouldn’t have intended for the underlying message that I seem to be picking up on.
But it’s for many, many other people in love that I feel a very strong need to say this. There are millions of couples who do not practice a Christian religion, and I and my spouse are one of them. Just for a few examples are Jewish, Islamic, Buddhist and atheist couples. All these people would not be asking the Christian God for help since they don’t believe in that God. Do you think all those people don’t “truly” love each other? That really upsets me. My spouse and I have been through some seriously trying times together, made sacrifices for each other, and truly love each other too.
I’m sorry and don’t want to “rain on your parade” but I really hope you are an understanding enough person to see why I can’t smile and say nothing about an implication like so many people not truly loving each other, because of their religious affiliation(if any). That can’t be what you meant, right?
I wonder why this can’t just be a statement of his faith and how it has helped him in his relationship with Kate. I did not read any admonishment of people who believe in other faiths or none.
We speak of tolerance but are always reading things into simple statements of faith. There is no argument here, just a man trying to find his way.
I read that no-one can feel true love without God. So what about atheists? Can they not feel true love? Apparently not. This reminds me of some people who say that atheists are demons sent by the devil. But at least he didn’t say autistics can’t love, right?