As of late I have been praying about my ability to be a father, and Kate’s ability to be a mother. I’ve been thinking about if we are capable of even being parents.Kate has FAS and a lower IQ then normal, and I have Aspergers. After really talking it over with a lot of friends, talking to someone Kate has known since she was three I have decided that Kate and I are capable of being parents if we choose to get our acts together. I am now choosing to get my act together, and will be starting a parenting class, have started seeing a counselor.
So as of right now I have made the final decision, this child will not be going up for adoption. I’m going to communicate that to Kate’s mother tonight as well as my support person. I feel like with proper support Kate and I will be really good, and effective parents. Yes I’m scared, yes I’m nervous – but I feel like that’s normal in this situation. I feel like Kate and I have a lot to offer a child – and I look forward to raising it with Kate. I hope to have one more some day so this one will have a younger sibling to pick on.
Now Kate has to make a decision, will it grow up in a single parent house or with a mother and father?
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It IS normal for anyone to be scared and nervous. Having a child is a life changing experience for anyone. It sounds like you are approaching parenting in a very responsible manner. With such a good attitude you should be a great parent. Best of luck to you, Kate and your child.
Thanks for the great words and encouragement.
I can only hope and pray that Kate decides to be an adult and quit being stubborn.
maybe not what you will want to hear, but I really think you should seriously consider the adoption option. You need to do what is best for the child. I’ve followed some of your drama on this site. You were suicidal just yesterday. You made this kid. The right thing to do is make sure he/she has the best chance possible for a good life. You cannot say that now and neither can the biomom. As a dad and as someone who has looked into adopting, I can tell you that there are tons of great, loving, stable families that can give the kid a good life.
Anyway, my two cents.
Thanks for your comment. I have to say while I agree with you on some points, I think I learned one thing throughout this entire mess. I need to be there for my kid. I have been gone for three months of my kids life, I don’t think I can be gone a lifetime.
Its time I start getting my life together.