Comments on: Disability Pregnancy and Fear http://www.aspieweb.net/disability-pregnancy-and-fear/ The Aspergers And Autism Web Thu, 09 Feb 2012 03:08:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Autumn http://www.aspieweb.net/disability-pregnancy-and-fear/#comment-11811 Autumn Fri, 19 Jun 2009 12:55:59 +0000 http://www.aspieweb.net/?p=721#comment-11811 and... :-D There are plenty of OBGYN's.. figure out if this one is the right fit. Some doctor's have a tendency to project more authority than others.. Again it's only a guess, but something tells me you might prefer one that is down to earth... I know it' such a pain to have to try out different doctors.. but can be so worth it.. and even then you may just likely have to write down your questions like the other's stated.. but you sound like a thinker and feeler.. and I know personally for myself if I am lost in a doctor's projections.. I cannot really focus on anything else.. most importantly how I'm feeling.. which is why we're seeing the doctor in the first place! and… :-D

There are plenty of OBGYN’s.. figure out if this one is the right fit. Some doctor’s have a tendency to project more authority than others.. Again it’s only a guess, but something tells me you might prefer one that is down to earth… I know it’ such a pain to have to try out different doctors.. but can be so worth it.. and even then you may just likely have to write down your questions like the other’s stated.. but you sound like a thinker and feeler.. and I know personally for myself if I am lost in a doctor’s projections.. I cannot really focus on anything else.. most importantly how I’m feeling.. which is why we’re seeing the doctor in the first place!

]]> By: Autumn http://www.aspieweb.net/disability-pregnancy-and-fear/#comment-11810 Autumn Fri, 19 Jun 2009 12:43:50 +0000 http://www.aspieweb.net/?p=721#comment-11810 Welcome to life! It's freaking scarey as hell... but you are obviously brave in the fact that you have not kept your personal life from others. I'm guessing you feel that you're surrounded by 'authorities'.. These authorities can be your mom, your dad, your older sister, sometimes even your friends and your lovers, neighbors, pastors and yes especially doctors! Some will oppose your choices and some will not. Ultimately you are your own authority.. even doctor's do not hold that over you.. I know it's freaking scarey and you cannot force yourself to do anything you are not ready to do.. (even if it's confronting a doctor) but recognize you are doing your best. If I am to give any advice just take it one day at a time and keep close to your faith.. Welcome to life!

It’s freaking scarey as hell… but you are obviously brave in the fact that you have not kept your personal life from others. I’m guessing you feel that you’re surrounded by ‘authorities’.. These authorities can be your mom, your dad, your older sister, sometimes even your friends and your lovers, neighbors, pastors and yes especially doctors! Some will oppose your choices and some will not. Ultimately you are your own authority.. even doctor’s do not hold that over you.. I know it’s freaking scarey and you cannot force yourself to do anything you are not ready to do.. (even if it’s confronting a doctor) but recognize you are doing your best. If I am to give any advice just take it one day at a time and keep close to your faith..

]]> By: Zach http://www.aspieweb.net/disability-pregnancy-and-fear/#comment-11807 Zach Fri, 19 Jun 2009 09:58:06 +0000 http://www.aspieweb.net/?p=721#comment-11807 There are times when I won't be able to make appointments. Also when I help advocate for Kate, Kate's mother sees it as me being controlling. There are times when I won’t be able to make appointments. Also when I help advocate for Kate, Kate’s mother sees it as me being controlling.

]]> By: Samuel Sandeen (Aranittara) http://www.aspieweb.net/disability-pregnancy-and-fear/#comment-11798 Samuel Sandeen (Aranittara) Fri, 19 Jun 2009 02:07:38 +0000 http://www.aspieweb.net/?p=721#comment-11798 You can have Zach come with you right? so just have him ask the questions. You can have Zach come with you right?
so just have him ask the questions.

]]> By: michelle turner http://www.aspieweb.net/disability-pregnancy-and-fear/#comment-11796 michelle turner Fri, 19 Jun 2009 00:02:29 +0000 http://www.aspieweb.net/?p=721#comment-11796 Kate, Try writing down all your concerns and questions on paper before your doctor's appts. Then even if you are too nervous to remember what you want to ask you can just hand your doctor the paper. It works for me when taking my son to the doctor. I am always so busy trying to keep him calm that I end up forgetting what I wanted to ask. I just want to get out of there without him melting down and then we get in the car and I think of what I meant to say! Best wishes to you, Michelle Kate,
Try writing down all your concerns and questions on paper before your doctor’s appts. Then even if you are too nervous to remember what you want to ask you can just hand your doctor the paper. It works for me when taking my son to the doctor. I am always so busy trying to keep him calm that I end up forgetting what I wanted to ask. I just want to get out of there without him melting down and then we get in the car and I think of what I meant to say!
Best wishes to you, Michelle

]]> By: jypsy http://www.aspieweb.net/disability-pregnancy-and-fear/#comment-11795 jypsy Thu, 18 Jun 2009 23:47:39 +0000 http://www.aspieweb.net/?p=721#comment-11795 <I>"It really frustrates Zach because I tell him things I want to say before hand, and things I’m worried about but then I clam up in the doctors office. How can I help remember what I want to say in the doctor’s office and not clam up?"</I> Make a list! Write down your questions, as you think of them, between appointments, and take the list of questions with you. Hand it to your Dr. and have him/her answer each one. If you have follow up questions try to ask them then, or ask Zach to ask them, or write them down for next time. My family Dr. is used to me having stuff written down, I think he expects it from me. Sometimes, when I have forgotten my list, I spend the time I have in the examining room before he comes in re-writing what I can remember of the paper that covers the examination table. “It really frustrates Zach because I tell him things I want to say before hand, and things I’m worried about but then I clam up in the doctors office. How can I help remember what I want to say in the doctor’s office and not clam up?”

Make a list! Write down your questions, as you think of them, between appointments, and take the list of questions with you. Hand it to your Dr. and have him/her answer each one. If you have follow up questions try to ask them then, or ask Zach to ask them, or write them down for next time.

My family Dr. is used to me having stuff written down, I think he expects it from me. Sometimes, when I have forgotten my list, I spend the time I have in the examining room before he comes in re-writing what I can remember of the paper that covers the examination table.

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