A Regretful Future Decision

So right now Katelyn and I have to make some huge decisions regarding the child Katelyn is pregnant with – to put it up for adoption or raise it.  It also makes it very difficult that we have a lot of people pushing us in either direction.  I’m starting to wonder if the people who are really pushing us are really looking out for the best interests of the child and us, or their own.The decision Katelyn and I make is going to be a difficult one, and to be honest one that we may regret the rest of our lives.  I’m sick of hearing other peoples opinions on what we should do with this child, as frankly its not really their decision – and the people who seem to be pushing the most are the people who seem to be acting out of their own best interests, lying and doing things behind our backs to push us to choose their option.

My mother was quite forcefully trying to get Katelyn to go through an abortion.  I mean she was yelling at Katelyn and I at the top of her lungs, accusing Katelyn and I of not caring, blah blah blah.  I think you get the point that this was not helpful at all, and to be honest this made me very, very angry.

Then we have Katelyn’s mother who actually makes me more angry then my own mother.  Shes trying to get us to put this kid up for adoption, but she uses manipulative and lying ninja like tactics.  Shes been making it so Katelyn and I can’t see each other to talk about these things face to face – and blames everyone else.  (We both know its now her mother, and I have no problem writing the truth here.)  Shes also been telling Katelyn and I how we can’t do anything.  I mean she says Katelyn can’t drive (and I know Katelyn drives just fine – I let her drive numerous times to see how she did and I would be comfortable riding in a car she was driving with a bit more practice anytime.)  I think Katelyn’s mother is the story of the overprotective mom who can’t let go of her little girl.  The reason she pisses me off more then my own mom is because she uses lying and manipulation as tactics to get her way – and acts all self righteous about it.  I’ve yet to hear an apology out of this woman’s mouth ever.

Whos The Most Supportive

I have to say the most supportive people are the ones that listen to me, my thoughts, Katelyn’s thoughts and don’t tell us what they think.  I have to say the people that tell us that its a difficult decision that only Katelyn and I can make, and that they will support us through this decision no matter what are the best people to have in this situation.  To be honest, though they are few and far between.   Most people I hear from want us to keep the child, other want us to put it up for adoption.  Very few are supportive and listen to me, and just are there for us.

But yet I would like some input.  As you know this is going to be a very difficult decision for both Katelyn and I to make.  I would like to hear from others who have made this decision.  If you were looking at putting your child up for adoption, did you or not – and what were the deciding factors for you?  Also do you regret your decision?

Tagged as: adoption, parenting, pregnant