Court, Anxiety and Overwhelmed

So right now I’m so anxiety ridden, and overwhelmed with thoughts of what may happen tomorrow.  Tomorrow is a big day for me, Kate and our child.  It could be the beginning of the end of the drama that has started, or the opening of a whole new drama.  The fact that I have no say in it causes me great distress.Kate made some huge accusations against me that resulted in criminal charges that have no been cleared, but a domestic personal protection order remains in effect due to the false allegations Kate made about me.  I have yet to know why Kate made these allegations, but I think its because she was scared.  She found out she was pregnant, and for anyone in an unplanned circumstance it can be a very scary situation – but add Kate’s disability, the unhappiness of her family about it, and me being scared on top of it she must of had no way to cope.

The fact remains though, while I can prove Kate has been lying.  Enough people witnessed the truth, and enough people have heard Kate admit she lied including Sheriff’s Deputies, friends, family and others that I’m hoping she will just admit the truth and say she lied because she was scared.  The problem is though, its not just up to her anymore.  The judge has to make the decision to drop the PPO – and the judge is going to have to make some more decisions about Katelyn as well.

Reprecussions

Katelyn can be found in contempt of court, and be charged with perjury for the false statements she made.  This causes me even more anxiety as I think charging Katelyn with anything will just complicate the situation even more.  I think Katelyn has gone through enough emotional pain in this situation that shes likely learned her lesson.

Friends, Family, Law Enforcement and even my now fired lawyer have advised me I should sue Katelyn and her parents (as they are now liable for Katelyn’s actions – more on that later) as well as seek a personal protection order against them.  I have decided that seeking either a PPO or filing a law suit is in no ones best interests, and would only serve to lengthen the drama.  I just really want the drama to end, and for Kate and I to figure out what the future entails for us – and our child.

Icing On The Cake

Because of this whole mess Katelyn’s adoptive parents now have temporary full legal guardianship of Kate – which complicates this mess even more.  From what lawyers have told me now that Katelyn has been judged mentally incompetent by signing away her rights she no longer has parental rights with the child as soon as its born – and that I would be the sole person with parental rights.  From what it sounds like Katelyn is trying to fight the guardianship, and if she wishes I will support her 100 percent in that fight.  But when that fight is over – which she will hopefully win there’s going to be more court drama.

I’m told that Katelyn will have to go to court to have her parental rights re-instated if she wins.  I support this 100 percent as I feel decisions about this child should be made not only by me, but by Katelyn as well.  If for some reason Katelyn can’t get them re-instated its going to make the situation difficult, but I’m going to try and take into account Katelyn’s opinions and wishes regarding the child as well as my own.

Guarded Guardians

After talking to Katelyn’s mom a couple of times she is very guarded on the whole situation – and rightfully so.  The fact that Katelyn and I have a child are not going to change no matter how screwed up this gets, and the fact that her and I will have to talk about this child and make some decisions are not going to change either.  Katelyn’s mother has told me Katelyn and I will no longer be able to even talk without her parents listening in on the conversation – which is understandable but also concerns me.  Katelyns mom tends to be a bit overly motherly sometimes – and I’m worried that Katelyn and I won’t be able to have an honest conversation about decisions we need to make with other people around.

The fact remains the only three people that are going to make decisions regarding what happens with this child are God, Katelyn and I and I feel like involving other people in the decision making process other then professionals such as pregnancy counselors would just mess the situation up even more.  To be honest, a lot of people have strong opinions on if I should put this child up for adoption, others have strong opinions against it – but the fact remains the opinions of anyone but God, Katelyn and I are really when it boils down to it – irrelevant.  I’m not saying I’m against seeking the wisdom of others – I just think I’ve heard enough wisdom.

So…..

I would appreciate it if you could keep Katelyn, her family, I and our child in your thoughts tonight and if you could post any comments of wisdom or support on the situation I would appreciate it.   I know Katelyn and her parents read this website often – so feel free to say anything in support of them as well.  They most likely will not reply until after the court date tomorrow if they ever do, but I know Katelyn has enjoyed reading the supportive comments back when she used to guest post here.

And just to let you know…. the due date last I heard is February 13th…. the day before valentines day.  Is that saying much?