Important Update

I landed here somehow. I’ve read many posts and watched the video.

I am not going to get into the details of your situation, they will change daily. You will need to manage this change and roll with it and stay on top of what the priorities are to push towards the positive, each time things slide sideways.

I do relate to your pain. I have spent years of my life feeling so down. I never got help, never got drugs… I think for me personally, I knew that I had to pull myself out and that I needed to get my stuff together. I think I was pitying myself.

Eventually I did stumble out of things, and when I did, I was furious with myself for wasting so much time being miserable!

I still make poor decisions in my relationship with my 11 yr mate. But I know this and I offer it to you, because you seem very intelligent but admittedly very lonely.

It’s OK to get help. We all need help sometimes. My help is my mom, but not everyone is so lucky.

Those that do stop to help, even if they are paid to help, these people will facilitate your next steps.

Then when you are ready, you will step back into your life and feel more in charge.

In the meantime, believe that one day you will look back at this with some perspective and know that ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.’

As a parent, I respected your connection to your unborn child and how much the prenatal appointments meant to you.

All the more reason why you need to gather your wits about you, get on track, stay focused and find your own sources of joy and happiness, so that you can be there and be a positive life force in your child’s life, for as long as they need you.

I have never met you, but you have your thoughts quite clear and your priorities seem evident – you mind works just fine, it’s just that your heart needs time to mend, and it will. I’ve had several significant broken heart experiences. You might never stop loving someone but you can stop liking them. You can put them in a slot, a safe place in your emotional memory bank and box them in. I’ve done it. In fact there are a couple of ex’s that I pretty much consider dead, in my mind. I loved them once or desperately wanted to love and be loved by them – and then I moved on, because they were sick people.

Do not weigh yourself down with those who are negative, move on.

You are doing great. Thanks for writing to the world. We are here, we are listening and we care.

Take care, from Toronto..Ontario…Canada

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