So I just met this girl, who kinda fell from the sky. I had to catch her as she did not have a parachute. She has many of the things I have really looked for in a woman and for once I feel I’m not compromising my lists of whats acceptable and whats not. The only problem is I need help.
OK – maybe I’m exaggerating in that title a bit, but shes a really strong christian – and I admit I’m more of a struggling one. We’ve been talking, and praying we decided that were not going to date – but instead court. Courting is in my opinion is much more rewarding and fulfilling than dating. In the Christian context of courting you pray about getting into a relationship before hand – and before you talk to her parents you talk to God and seek his permission first. Courting is also different in that you are committing to this person that you know they are the person you want for the rest of your life. God doesn’t mess up and get confused – so when he says yes you know that’s the person.
We have set up several rules on our courting – no sex before marriage, no kissing except on the cheek or forehead, no making out, basically the only physical things are holding hands, hugging, a peck on the cheek or forehead and an arm around each other when sitting. I’ve really thought about this and to be honest it makes it so much easier for me as I don’t have to figure out whats to far – and am able to concentrate on cheesy jokes, and communicating with her.
I guess I really want to do it right this time, so what are some awesome ways to show a lady you love her?
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You said you just met her and at the end you say you love her? Is this a love at first sight thing? If so, I think your doing the right thing by taking it slow.
Here’s some advise. When she comes to you and complains about her day, she isn’t looking for you to solve her problems, just someone that will listen and support her. Many men make the mistake of thinking that women want us to solve any little complaint they have. In my experience, this isn’t true. They are more likely wanting someone to just listen to them without any judgement.
Women like to talk. They are generally much more social than we are. Women don’t necessarily like someone that has a lot of strong opinions. There are exceptions, like my wife.
Be yourself, don’t try to be someone she wants you to be. She needs to see you for you because you can only be someone else for a short period of time.
Remain attached but at the same time keep your independence. Don’t become a lap dog, which is an easy thing to do, especially if its a love at first sight kind of thing and young love. If you find your moods are dependent on the mood of your partner, then this is when you need to step back. The emotional roller coaster is very difficult I think for those of us on the spectrum.
I’ll think of some other things and post later.
This is a great post!!! Good job hun!!
No problem!
Great choice in courting, Zach. I wish you the best of luck with your new woman.